Better Sex Tips

Are you hoping to last longer in bed naturally? These tips will help you last longer in bed naturally, these are what we to improve our sex life. Do you feel as though you are over worked and under paid? Do you feel the endless stack of bills piling up on the kitchen table? If you are over stressed, then you most likely are not fairing well in the bedroom either. Many men who are stressed over even the smallest things will find out that they are able to perform to their fullest potential in the bedroom. When you are going to bed at night, there are some simple things that you can do to make it so that you are able to last longer in bed naturally.

The first tip that you want to use is to cut back on the caffeine that you have before going to bed. Caffeine does affect the outcome in the bedroom as too much caffeine can harm the way that your penis works. It cuts back on the amount of pleasure you are able to give when in the bed. The next thing that you need to know is that you are not alone in this aspect. There are a high number of men who are unable to perform their duties each day or each night. Understanding what the problem is and rectifying the problem will help to ensure that both you and your partner are being satisfied.

The number one thing that you can do to make sure that both of you are being satisfied is to make sure that you are bringing her close to climax before you even enter her. The amount of foreplay that you are giving to her will please both of you and at the same time, by the time that you insert your penis, she will climax and you will be able to take your time reaching your own orgasm or reaching orgasm sooner. Once you are able to satisfy her, she will be less likely to care if it takes just seconds or hours. The hours are just an added bonus rather than just seconds.

The next thing that you want to do is to make sure that you are not too distracted. Make sure that you can focus and by focusing on something other than what you are trying to avoid is a good method of making sure that both of you are satisfied. You want to pay attention to what is going on in the bed but will also want to pay attention to other things going on around you. When you feel as though you are getting to close to the orgasm, focus your thoughts on something else. Another thing that you can do is to change the position up a little bit. Try moving from the top to the bottom or from front to back. There are numerous positions that will work for making yourself last longer. By refocusing your thoughts on something else, you are able to make yourself less likely to climax as fast and will then be able to go for even longer time periods.

These are some of the common better sex tips that can be used when wanting to build up the amount of time your able to last longer in bed naturally. By remembering that this is for fun and rather not a job or chore, you are more likely to be able to succeed rather than feeling as though you have failed. When you look at it as it being more of a chore, you are less likely to achieve climax and are less likely to please the other party as well.

So, you’ve been together a while now and life is getting routine and boring – even in the sex arena, it’s probably time to learn a few new sex tricks. I don’t have a single girlfriend who hasn’t experienced this. Hmmm… what to do, what to do? Here are a few ideas and magical sex tricks that may interest you. And before you begin, let me ask that you commit to the task before you talk yourself out of an experience that could be a lot of fun.

Put Your Best Little Black Dress On. Get out of the sweat pants and into something that makes you feel attractive. Every so often, my husband and I make plans someplace that requires dressing up a little, just so we have to get out of our old jeans and into something a little nicer. We both enjoy the boost in our self-esteem, as well as the compliments we receive from each other. This is one of the easiest sex tricks that you can introduce immediately to improve your sex life.

Set out on an adventure. In the words of Helen Keller, “Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.” Go somewhere you’ve never been before. Be it a new hiking trail, an ethnic restaurant or a mini vacation to a B & B, having a little fun and a life experience together can bring you closer and give you a stronger common bond.

Play a different role. Game-playing CAN be a fun and healthy way to blitz boredom. No head games please, but ‘Dress-Up’ or ‘Doctor’ may touch on some fantasies you’ve never explored. I’ve even entertained the idea of going to a bar and letting my husband try and pick me up.

Get a new sex toy. While we’re on the topic of sex tricks, a “Rabbit Vibrator” can be Oh…mazing. The vast marketplace of adult toys and erotica is an amazing place to get your imagination moving. These days, online suppliers can quickly and discreetly send you something you may be interested in trying. Erotica books and movies are great for inspiration. Whatever you choose, definitely try it together!

Change the scenery. A little bedroom make-over can be fun for the two of you. Change your bedding, move around the furniture or just de-clutter. Keep out items that aren’t conducive to relaxation or romance. The more comfortable your boudoir, the more likely you are to USE it.

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Giving Good Head 101

Planning on giving good head? Men love blowjobs.  They really do, you probably know that by now.  It’s one of the most stimulating acts you can perform on a man.  Conversely, many women hate giving blowjobs.  Some look at it like a chore that needs to be done every once in a while because he wants it.  Some feel it to be too submissive an action, and others just find it to be, well, gross. It’s amazing that 90% of women have no idea what it takes to giving good head.

First of all, reciprocity is key to any relationship, sexual or otherwise.  There’s some give and take involved, and all I can suggest is to try to keep it interesting for yourself as well as your partner so you don’t dread it.  Second of all, giving oral is one of the most dominant sexual acts you can do.  You are in total control, whether you tease him with light licks of your tongue or go all in (pun intended).

As for the grossness factor, yes, it’s a trifle uncomfortable, but don’t take in more than you can handle.  Trust me, he doesn’t want to hear gagging any more than you want to feel it.  Communication is key.  So now that we’ve pushed the protests aside, let’s concentrate on technique.  A lot of women just kind of wing it when it comes to oral sex, and most guys won’t bother to instruct them on the finer points because they’re just so happy to be getting any at all!  Here are some tips to finesse your blowjob technique.

1.  Be BOLD, be confident. There’s nothing sexy about timidity- his member is not going to bite you!  Go in there and do your thing, and be sure to make eye contact.

2.  Give him your complete undivided attention. Giving head can be repetitive and boring.  If you find yourself thinking about other things and having him shout in pain because you accidentally uncovered your teeth, shake things up.  Try different techniques not only for him, but to keep you interested as well.  Besides, if the tables were turned and he was performing the oral while distracted by something else, you’d be pissed.

3.  Spend some time teasing him. A quick lick and suck is not going to do it.  Take it slow, take some time with this.

4.  Don’t ignore the “twins.” Guys want the whole package appreciated, so be sure not to forget the testicles.  His balls are very sensitive, so be very gentle with them.  Licking, sucking, and kissing them is very erotic.  Slowly massage them while your mouth is working the shaft.

5.  Use your hands. Let both your mouth and your hands hold him. Stroke him.  Most guys won’t cum unless you stroke at least a little bit.  Increase the speed of your strokes as you reach the end.

The key here above anything else is to be sensual about it, and remember that every guy is different and will have different preferences.  These tips are a starting point, but rest assured that these simple tips will keep your man worshiping the sex goddess that you know you are.

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Although sex is the most intimate way a couple connects with one another, you don’t want to ONLY be keeping intimacy alive within the four walls of your bedroom. Plenty of my girlfriends have expressed  frustrations with a partner who doesn’t tune in to them during the day, but expects sex as soon as the lights are out. Not gonna happen!

When this issue arises in my own relationship, I use the analogy of the pre-heated oven. Nothing’s going in there until it’s nice and hot. And consequently, women accumulate experiences all day long in our emotional vault. All these things mull together into a state of mind that either will or won’t support a romantic encounter. OK, guys, don’t despair. There are some things you can do to help stack the cards in your favor.

To put it simply, be nice, help out and ease into the situation. Prepare yourself for keeping intimacy alive. There’s a mental aspect of it as well.

The first part of the equation seems easy enough. Avoiding unnecessary conflicts, nitpicking and temper tantrums should be the norm in any mature relationship. It also adds to the closeness a couple feels with each other, and hence creates opportunity for sexual bonding. Next, pay attention to your partner’s work load. Has the boss been demanding extra hours? Is the household ‘to do’ list getting out of control? And where are the kids in all this? Any little bit of assistance you can do to help relieve HER will increase your chances for a quiet evening together. If in doubt, just ask. I think the best thing my husband ever says to me is, “What can I do to help you?” Finally, take it slow. After a busy day, it will take a little while for ANYONE to get in the mood for sex. Take a bath or shower together, offer a back/ foot rub, and don’t pressure. Let things unfold as they will and you’ll quickly realize the simplicity of keeping intimacy alive amongst yourselves.

Once you’ve implemented these techniques, you can get a little fancier. Be the good partner – no need to play Don Juan. Just a few more little tips can really make you shine in your partner’s eyes. Notice little changes in clothing and hairstyles, and pay compliments regularly. Take a few seconds in the morning to say, “Good Morning” with a hug and a kiss. When passing each other in the hallway or while working on dinner together, give a quick pat on the butt or a flirty smile. When you get one back, you know you may be in for a fun evening of sparks flying and keeping intimacy alive and thriving!

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